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Community Nourishment: Growing An Online Space That Thrives

Community Nourishment: Growing An Online Space That Thrives

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In case you missed it (because you truly don’t want to miss it,) Rose Kaz wrote this week about the origins of the LBI Backstage Pass, what motivated her to grow this community and the dream she has for its cultivation.

Just like a garden, cultivating a community requires patience, dedication, and a love for growth.

Both require a delicate balance of providing the right conditions for growth, nurturing development, and pruning and removing obstacles.

In the short time I have been with LBI, I have dazzled by the colors of this garden.

Here is what Backstage pass member, singer, songwriter and producer Bridget Lyons has to say about her experience on the LBI platform:

Being able to create together in a community, and tell our stories, and be heard and support one another has been wonderful to be a part of. It’s been inspiring and mesmerizing at times.

Listen to Bridget’s full testimonial:

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I keep coming back to this image of of a garden and of the gardener, tools in hand, dream in heart, sitting down with a blank page and drawing out the garden plan.

She must take into account the growing conditions, what type of plant is likely to flourish, what type would need extra care. She creates a design both pleasing to the eye and in harmony with the landscape.

She chooses a variety of flora and fauna 

In different shapes, colors, heights.

Maybe she plans an herb garden where she will grow plants to harvest for her healing kitchen, or a cutting garden of bright blooms to make bouquets.

Maybe she will plant with the intention of attracting butterflies or hummingbirds or restoring native growth, bringing balance.

Soul Coach for transformational women leaders, Ber-Henda Williams says:

What sticks out the most to me about this particular platform is that in many cases when we have female identified or female-centric programming, it’s usually focused on patriarchy. In particular, white feminism has caused a detriment and harm to communities of color because it is singular focused. What I have found in being a part of Rose’s community is this it is intersectional in all the ways. It’s not only inclusive, but it is welcoming. It does not tokenize, but takes into consideration the entirety of the feminine experience.

Listen to Ber-Henda’s full testimonial:

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After the dreaming and planning is done, the work begins – the work of tending the soil and planting seeds – watering, but not too much, shielding tender roots from the frost, pulling way the dead leaves.

As someone who loves a beautiful garden but really has to work at having a green thumb, I can say, growing a lush abundant garden is difficult but deeply rewarding work.

And that is how we grow a community.

Clare Ramírez, the Boxing Yogini, says:

The Backstage Pass connects me with a like-minded group of women in a world and land that can feel very lonely. Just trying to provide for yourself as a woman, and provide life and health for your business, can become a lonely space. It can become an anxiety ridden space, and it can become a vulnerable space. To be inspired by other women has really been useful, plus it’s a joy to work and speak and listen to women on their paths.

Listen to Clare’s full testimonial:

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Growing a thriving online community means:

Planting the seeds. Just as in a garden, you carefully choose the right seeds for your climate and soil, a community requires the right mix of people to be the foundation. This can be a core group of people who share similar interests and values, and it can been a variety of different people who share a common goal or understanding, or who are open to sharing that understanding, but it is people who set the tone for the community.

Providing the right conditions. Just as a garden needs the right amount of sunlight, water, and nutrients to thrive, a community needs the right tools, resources, and communication channels to facilitate growth and engagement.

Nurturing growth. A gardener must continuously water, fertilize, and tend to their plants to ensure they grow healthy and strong. In a community, you must continually foster engagement, provide support and resources, and encourage members to participate and contribute.

Pruning and removing obstacles: In a garden, removing dead leaves and branches helps direct the plant’s energy towards growth. In a community, removing negativity, toxicity, and obstacles helps maintain a positive and productive environment for growth.

Celebrating milestones and victories: A gardener takes pride in watching her plants bloom, and in a community, it’s important to celebrate milestones, from a member’s first post to a community event.

Just like a garden, a community requires consistency and attention to flourish.

And by following this map, tending to this garden, you have helped this community grow into a thriving and vibrant space for members to connect and share.

This is what Therapeutic Image Consultant Marisol Colette says:

Of all the social media platforms, this is the one that has the most positive impact, because it’s about the sharing of valuable information around how to show up in the world as a better person with more support.

Listen to Marisol’s full testimonial:

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The LBI Backstage Pass is your community. Rose is the gardener, but so are you.

You are the gardeners and the seeds and the beautiful blooms.

In my part of the world, it is icy and cold. The sky is grey. But deep beneath the frozen ground there is a glowing ember of warmth. There is life. 

In a few short weeks, the first buds and signs of spring will arrive and if I am careful and consistent, I will cultivate the tiny piece of land outside my back door and create a sanctuary for the wild life, an environment where the flowers can flourish…where I can flourish.

Before I know what happened, it will be summer – lush and vibrant.

As Rose dreams into the lush and vibrant future of this community, she invites us to dream along with her, plant along with her, cultivate this space together, and grow.

Thank you for your presence in this process.

More About Lori-Lyn

More About Lori-Lyn

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Lori-Lyn Hurley is a writer and artist who wants her work to nourish the wild parts of you and inspire you to live creatively and be your true self in the world.

Click here to come Backstage, meet Lori-Lyn and the entire community of femme forward leaders. 

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The social media antidote: real Community – with a capital C

The social media antidote: real Community – with a capital C

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Am I the only one that gets a bit of a rash from the mainstream way of doing social media? The chirping birds that once allowed a community of journalists to gather on a platform to squawk freely has degraded with the equally free speech of Trump-eters and Musketeers alike. Quick quips of less edited and more run ons seem to fuel an arbitrary fire of divisive rhetoric instead of an international call and response of reporting. Makes me itchy just thinking of it! How about you?

Facebook’s boat of town hall focus has long since sailed in consideration of a user first, Community centered model;  unless you want to sell your old Ray Bans or gently used couch. And now with it’s not so sly rebrand, Meta is no longer the digital hub to visit in simply searching for long lost cousins without getting tussled in a political crossfire. Or maybe you’ll  just have your movements tracked for what you may have clicked (baited) on, unsuspectedly. Let’s not get into the weeds about the actual WHY beyond Zuckerberg’s build of said social network but a simple survey on the ethics of the platform in the ten year span of 2010-2020 doesn’t  show FB was built to scale to make people feel good about ourselves and our shared humanity; aka Community! 

FB’s own takeover of the once ‘independent’ & ‘emerging’ social media channel,  Instagram, was notably created by a nice, New England guy who began his tech obsession playing warfare in simulation games like Doom. Kevin Systrom, who attended Stanford and would initially turn down Zuckerburg for gainful employment before developing IG (2010) for what he would  then quickly  sell for a cool $1 billion ( 2012) straight to his Ivy league peer, Mr. Mark Z.  Talk about a tech unicorn!!  As we all  know, Instagram (as does Meta) leads with its algorithmic shadows leaving users feeling more like it’s a high school popularity contest instead of an inspiring, visual landscape of creators {woof}! Are you scratching yourself yet?

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Upgrades to Community building by way of  new social apps like the audio only Clubhouse, user monetized Fanbase and reportedly less ‘toxic’ micro blogging site Hive Social are taking their own moment to convince users to come along for a better, more curated experience, off of the quite literal ‘beaten path. {grrrrr} 

We humans are old dogs, and sadly, we don’t do new tricks well, it seems. 

Making new social habit is hard, generally, and then the specifics of switching patterns from shitty, addictive behavior is something of (wo)mans’ existential kinks of our earthly existence. 

But what of TikTok, you may say. It’s so fun, you may bark!  The Chinese owned, facial recognition software, in its American version, is made quite differently than its own, homegrown type where the Great Wall-ed Community audience consumes an intentionally more educational set of media; much more PG rated than its US ‘content creators’; think PBS and not HBO. Oh and if you’d like to register yourself as a company or business on TikTok to have a proper pro account, please be sure you upload your EID number and supporting tax documents. Are you kidding me? They are not even trying to be low key, creepy. Just upload your social and we will get your media out expeditiously. {Please pass the salve, I’m beyond irritated. }

With all those pitfalls to what a Community network really may need to flourish, it’s really surprising to me why we keep swiping for more!  Not shocking however, are my notes from over two years of interviewing & studying women, ages 22-48 on our shared social media experiences and behaviors. I have heard so many people, particularly countless women in business and loads of established, well-known thought leaders saying that social media just makes us… sad?! We are many times left feeling less than social, even suicidal. This is not exactly conducive to fostering a Community! When I actually take a closer look into my own social media consumption, even if I use it to study and also promote this antidote I am creating, I am typically left feeling like absolute shit. 

{whimper and growl!}

During those last few years of research, I have also been conceiving and building the panacea for this scratchy mess of bad behaviors in tech. In creating this new model as a digital hub and corralling new users there instead of other, extractive channels, many women have confided in me that they would rather not show up at all to seemingly prove themselves on the current version of a social media like FB, IG, sometimes even LinkedIn- the more ‘professional’ space amongst the network camps! 

With all the ‘other’ extractive, toxic and alienating garbage that is the main stream, it’s no surprise that even those of us #livingourbestlives still feels like a shadow of ourselves after we put the phone down.  

In fact, many of our new users on The Backstage Pass have mentioned they’d rather just lean directly into a trusted Community instead. Internet users far and wide, particularly busy women, would rather go straight to the source when they need  support from Community. They’ve also told me that the space we are building Backstage is expressly different and participation there actually makes them feel good, seen and valued. Wooooa! Community with a capital C is reborn, meow!!!  Phoning a friend to ask her direction as to how to find the best resources on funding for a project or educational endeavor, where to find safe, reproductive resources or healthcare answers she can trust, or even where and how to get politically inspired??  Spoiler alert, that friend is often me and I know there are more amazing connectors like me to add to this generative model.  And so I want to know, why do we keep doom scrolling when we can easily be bloom scrolling ??  { see what I did there?}

Maybe it’s because the way social media is rigged currently is not real; one could argue it’s a bit surreal. It seems to serve as a weird hologram of what is sorta, kinda real with a filter and cute edit.  And maybe we like that, for a minute or two, because we are so flawed, pimpled, puffy eyed and truly exhausted by the reality of life. Perhaps we like to make it look like that A role, hologram is real. And maybe, once we’ve had 5-10 minutes ( or in my recent, covid holiday case, 498 minutes in one day of screen time), we suddenly are not as happy with such a photomicrograph of our shared existence aka Community as the channels suggest.  Instead users leave feeling like a mer shell of the hologram our filter told us we are; taking us away , one at a time, from actually being connected to the Community that we so eagerly desire by way of small bread crumbs of the ‘likes’ to our lustrous posts. Ah the dopamine!! { howwwwl!}

Maybe it’s because social media is mildly unconscious at this point.

It’s now so aged that it may have forgotten about its job description to act as a social glue and to utilize the internet for all its good tributes of tech facia;  connecting human beings to both one another and to a bevy of information that the world wide web boasts. Somehow the (questionably) well intended mission jumped the tracks and put profit first and divided the Community which essentially creates the content that makes it. Or maybe that’s just the tea we have drunk, served cleverly to us as Community whilst the architects never had true connection in mind. 

I mentioned a handful of new social apps making small waves with new approaches, which is arguably great for a variety of reasons:  accessibility, profit sharing and less toxic amongst them. I really want to not only center how we can individually profit off of usage of our  content, our own data and ultimately people power that we consciously lead; I want us to also think about how we can access the currency of the Community not as extractive but as generative; a total reverse usage of the model that big tech has presented as the only way the internet can be won. I don’t want to break the internet, I just want to buy it back for its shared, collective powers of Community, with a capital C. 

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The advent of modern day religion, albeit centuries ago, called humans to gather under one roof, in our various sects, together. Then, the $8 latte heralded by Starbucks underscored the opportunity to charge for that which tithes and offerings fell short of; perhaps a shortbread cookie instead of a dry wafer as you say hello to all your neighbors on the way to catch the train!  And now the “free access” to social networks that promise to connect as they openly make  major profits  from your personal preferences and data in exchange for your direct access to the Community you know that you want, or maybe you don’t know but it is arguably instinctual.

What if that value of Community was reverted?

What if that belonging that we all inherently seek because we are intrinsically herd animals ( sorry but we are) what if the value of your life lived wasn’t an accumulation for personal gain?  But the value we all carried was by how each of us are able to give support to our Community, and not just your inner circle, your local tribe but the larger Community of Humanity. 

This would require us, as humans, to see personal gains ( money and the gathering of wealth) to be far more than just piles of stuff. We’d have to refuse to allow how much or how frequently we consume to be an indication of success and the worth of the person. THIS is the antidote to separateness; a true salve to current day social media’s hologram of selfish, greed, jealous inducing and ignorant (sad) bliss. Big tech’s extractive nature has not only made pretend versions of ‘networks’ centering the most human thing, Community, but also made us all a bit melancholy in heading to the proverbial town square for our $8 latte blessing and data collection of facial recognition software and other fun grabs for personal information.  

In a timely report, our own US Surgeon General Vivek H. Murthy shares that we are in a pandemic of loneliness. With all these incredible uses of technology to connect us, we’ve never been so alone with over 60% of Americans struggling with loneliness and upwards of 75% of younger people in deep bouts of mental unwellness;  likely most common social media users.

But what if we didn’t need an ointment each time we used our handheld computers with power so great it can drive a car, adjust a thermostat or even make our morning toast!  What if we employed a bit of conscious economics to bring people together instead of dividing us in the typical, extractive capitalist models. Like I said,  I am not interested in breaking the internet but I would like to buy it back from the wild, wild west gents of tech delight ( looking at you Bill, Mark, Steve, Elon, Herman, Thomas, Charles and bevy of otherwise decisively progressive yet ultimately White Guys.) And let’s be clear, I don’t want to buy  back the internet  so I can be the Queen of the hill. No no! I’d like to be the god bless Robyn Hood of the internet:  redistributing the powers of access to tools & resources and flipping the script on how we do business.  

As a lifetime shit stirrer, now lovingly called an industry disruptor, I’ve been asking myself why we keep going back for more and where are the better ways? 

The simple breakdown of the words social + media would imply the goal to be to use media socially to take action, likely driving people to do something ….good, maybe even helpful to one another!  A fella woman in tech with veteran status far greater than mine, Gina Bianchini, has taken her love of Community with a capital C onto build and form a very powerful antidote indeed, a hub of hubs:  Mighty Networks. She & her very Community focused crew have centered the Independent Creator as lead of their own networks and empowered us to build accordingly. 

LBI Digital’s main hub is currently housed on Mighty so that we can build effectively, efficiently and with a shared ethos of women lead businesses with Humanists like Gina B at the helm. I’ve chosen this path to build our Community of badass women thought leaders, fella industry disruptors and business activists instead of continuing to support the outdated methods led by web profiters who seem to intentionally build divisive and separatist soap boxes that quietly collect data, runs ads based on your movements and otherwise extracts personal information from its users via automations, zaps and other cool roboto types of mechanisms. You will  see less of me, Rose Kaz, and less LBI Digital on the aforementioned dinosaur channels of extractive tech. I’ll be busy building generative and helpful solutions to access the incredible web of information we humans generate. I will be aggregating that information as it pertains to women’s equity in the world so we can ALL progress better together AND actually feel good about ourselves!

Modern day …errr Dino day social media is like our Grandparent with dementia that can’t recall if you are his nurse, best friend Johnny or car wash attendant. With due respect for whatever he has accomplished in his heyday, he isn’t really contributing to the overall growth of modern society and adding value to current day culture. Dinosaur social media is on its own walk in the never ending, cul de sac of a doom scrolling park, basically nearly in an induced coma. You’re drunk social media, go home!

 

love, 

Rose 

More About Rose Kaz:

More About Rose Kaz:

Backstage Pass

Rose Kaz  is the Fem Founder and she’s done this a time or two. Her photo & video production company has taken her around the world but her new app allows her female clients & even women she hasn’t met yet to lean into each other, learn about our opportunity as business activists to support, grow & shop directly from one another. We are building a new economy, globally. WOW!

And the app we are talking about is that which Rose + the LBI Crew has launched where the ask for women is  to: ‘ take center stage in their lives;  to stand up, speak out & get GLOWING like never before’ Think activism meets B school meets super hip, online resource center! Sprinkle in some new school networking and POW The LBI Backstage Pass is #trending!

Click here to come Backstage, meet Rose and the entire community of femme forward leaders. 

Creative Community

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The importance of creative community, and especially the support and empowerment of women and femme-presenting people by other women, femme, and non-binary people, can’t be overstated.

It’s important.

And we know why. We know we have faced and continue to face immense challenges throughout history – from discrimination to lack of representation in the workplace, in media, and beyond. But by working together, we can create a more equitable and supportive environment in which we all can thrive.

We can support instead of compete.

Creative Community

One of the most effective ways to foster a supportive community is through the elevation of one another’s work. We should strive to recognize and celebrate the accomplishments of our peers, both in our existing communities and in wider circles.

We can do this in a variety of ways – public recognition, sharing resources, and providing support and guidance. Taking the time to recognize and appreciate the work of other women creates a sense of camaraderie and solidarity.
We need that in order to survive.

And thrive.

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When women come together to support each other, we make a powerful and unique impact. Not only does it inspire confidence and create a sense of belonging, but it also leads to increased collaboration and innovation.

We end up creating more.

Creating better.

When we join together, women are able to pool our resources and ideas, leading to more effective solutions, expanded creativity, and joy.

We find joy together, joy in one another.

In addition to the tangible benefits of working together, building community among women fosters a sense of pride and connection that assists us energetically. It’s important that we have a space to come together and share their stories and experiences, as well as to learn from and inspire each other.

The importance of community and the power of women elevating the work of other women should never be undervalued. When we work together, we create a strong network of support, collaboration, and innovation that leads to positive change.

And true success.

More About Lori-Lyn

More About Lori-Lyn

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Lori-Lyn Hurley is a writer and artist who wants her work to nourish the wild parts of you and inspire you to live creatively and be your true self in the world.

Click here to come Backstage, meet Lori-Lyn and the entire community of femme forward leaders. 

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It is Safe to Create Together

It is Safe to Create Together

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I was just in the Ladyboss Lounge, reading the new member welcome chat.

At quick glance, I saw people from Texas, Missouri, Michigan, California.

I saw women who host podcasts, are professional ghost writers, aromatherapists, attorneys, wellness coaches, and business coaches.

I noticed that I could click the NEAR ME button and find members in my area. (I discovered a chakra healer an afternoon’s drive from where I live.)

As I sip my morning coffee and explore this virtual meeting room, I’m struck by how it feels.

The way things feel is very important to me. If a vibe is off, I have to leave.

The thing about the LBI Lounge is…the vibe is on.

It feels good.

It’s a safe space, and that’s something we all need.

Over the past few years, I have found myself craving a place where I belong, where I can be myself and share my life and my work in a supportive, affirming environment.

Maybe you’ve been craving that, too?

It is Safe to Create Together

Being a part of a safe community, where we can not only network, but also collaborate, is so important. I mean, it’s life-giving, isn’t it?

To have a place where we can support and inspire one another, especially for those working in fields that have been traditionally dominated by men, is vital.

Safe community space empowers us – as individuals and as a collective.

As a Creative, I find it incredibly important to be in communities where I can share my work without fear of judgement.

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The LBI Backstage Pass is an environment that’s inclusive and welcoming – and that benefits me as a creator. It provides a sense of comfort and support that feeds my creativity.

Whether you are just starting out in your business or creative endeavors, or you’ve been building a business for years, being a part of a supportive and encouraging community can provide with the guidance and the energy you need to grow and develop.

A safe community for women to share their work is essential for creating a more equitable industry.

It helps to foster a culture of acceptance and empowerment for women, non-binary, and femme presenting people. It’s a great way to develop connections and make valuable contacts that will ultimately ultimately help us thrive and be successful.

But this morning, as I’m meeting this new faces and names and reading about where people live and how they live, I’m noticing how important it is for us to simply know one another.

Hearing one another’s stories, talking about where we are from and what we love is a reminder that life is good. The world is, at its heart, good.

And we as individuals and a community…are good.

We want what’s best for ourselves, but we also want what’s best for one another.

It’s both a comfort and an inspiration.

I’d love to meet you in the Lounge.

If you’ve been thinking about joining us Backstage, now is the perfect time. (It’s free!)

I’m going to pour another cup of coffee, and I’ll meet you there!

More About Lori-Lyn

More About Lori-Lyn

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Lori-Lyn Hurley is a writer and artist who wants her work to nourish the wild parts of you and inspire you to live creatively and be your true self in the world.

Click here to come Backstage, meet Lori-Lyn and the entire community of femme forward leaders. 

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The Ultimate Guide To Elevating Your Relationship

The Ultimate Guide To Elevating Your Relationship

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Relationships have changed more in the last 50 years than they have in the previous 5,000. We now have more freedom than ever to choose who we want to be and who we want to be within a relationship. But with this freedom comes the responsibility to understand how to create a solid foundation on which our relationship can thrive. In the past, relationships were more based on survival and need. Today, modern-day couples enter into a relationship for the psychological fulfillment of both individuals. 

The following is a guide to creating a happy and healthy long-term relationship.

Create A Common Vision

The first step to creating the relationship and life of your dreams is to have a clear vision. Having a life vision allows you to get more clarity about your future and what you truly want. To get from where you are to where you want to be, you must be specific. I am here to support you every step of the way.

The Ultimate Guide to Elevating Relationships

Create Your Vision Questionnaire

Strengthen your relationship by asking your partner the following questions:

1. Finances: How much money do you want to make annually? How will this money serve you? What are your values and expectations regarding money?

2. Home: What does your home look like? Where are you living? How does your home serve you? What are your values and expectations when it comes to your home?

3. Work: Where are you working, and what are you doing? Why does this occupation serve you? What are your values and expectations regarding your work?

4. Relationship: What does your relationship with your partner look like? How does this relationship serve you? What are your values and expectations regarding your relationship?

5. Children: What relationship do you have with your children? How does this relationship serve you? What are your values and expectations regarding your children?

6. Family: what type of relationship do you have with your family? How do these relationships serve you? What are your values and expectations when it comes to your family?

7. Health: What type of diet and exercise routine do you have? How does this healthy routine serve you? What are your values and expectations regarding your health?

8. Interests and Adventures: What are your interests, hobbies and adventure goals? How do these experiences serve you? What are your values and expectations regarding your interests and adventure?

9. Personal Life: How are you feeling within yourself? What type of person are you? What are your values and expectations when it comes to your personal lives?

Once you understand what you want your life to look like (goals) and begin to dig deeper as to why those things are important to you (values), you will start to create the foundation of your life and begin to take steps to thrive. 

Master Effective Communication

When two people come together in a relationship, they create three entities.

  • Partner One
  • Partner Two
  • The Couple

Understanding means being sympathetically aware of our partner’s feelings, tolerant and forgiving. To understand is to become familiar with them and to accept them the way they are.

We must understand our partners and listen to their needs and desires. We must gain insight into who our partner is and what they truly need from us. This understanding must come without judgement or expectations. We will learn how to truly listen by making an effort to hear them, being alert and ready to absorb and accept all information. (Acceptance does not equal agreement) To understand someone, you must learn how to communicate effectively.

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How well do you know your partner’s inner psychological world, their history, worries, stresses, joys, and hopes?

How to Have Effective Communication

Base your conversation on one topic at a time. Then go through the following steps:

The Speaker

1.  Speak clearly and directly while maintaining eye contact.
2. Give pauses so that your partner can comment.
3. Use “I statements”.

The Listener

1. Listen carefully to what your partner says, not what you think they mean.
2. Practice uninterrupted listening: Be aware that when we are in an argument, our attention span caps at ten seconds before we stop focusing on what the other person is saying and begin to think of our defensive statements.
3. Show you understand, regardless of whether or not you agree. Comment on what they said and validate their feelings.

Understanding Questionnaire

Strengthen your relationship by asking your partner the following questions:

What was the beginning of your relationship like, and what inspired you to make this commitment?

How are the two of you similar, and how are you different?

When do you feel most content in your relationship? When do you feel most unhappy or frustrated?

On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you respect your partner (1=not at all, 10=very highly)?

What is it about them that creates that level of respect in you?

What role have you played in contributing to the problems in your relationship?

Master The Power Couple Technique

Relationships without fighting are not only possible, but they are also necessary.

To navigate your relationship successfully, you must be able to go through conflict lovingly and respectfully, finding a solution that works for both partners time and time again.

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The 7 Steps to Success

1. Create a safe environment
Find the right time and place to have a conversation face-to-face with eye contact and respectful tones.

Example: When the kids are in bed on a Saturday night, you sit on the sofa with a glass of wine and soft music playing.

2. Each person states the issue in need of resolution. Do you agree?

Example: I tell my husband I am overwhelmed with the house chores. Working from home, taking care of a nine-month-old, cooking and cleaning are not leaving me time for self-care.

3. Each person states how they view the issue. 
Here we must practice understanding which is accepting our partner’s perspective as valid, even if we disagree.

4. Each person explains what outcome they desire. Do you agree?
Here we focus on what we want, not what we want our partner to do.

Example: I would like more time during the week to practice self-care.

5. Together, brainstorm ways to solve the problem. Make a list.
Be open and creative. Don’t worry about what is the only solution. 

Example: We could divide the cleaning by days. I can clean Monday, Wednesday and Friday while you clean Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday. We could hire a cleaner. We could have a cleaning party on Saturdays where we all clean while dressed in funny costumes and listening to our favourite music. We could divide the cleaning by tasks, and we each pick which ones we prefer to do.

6. Pick one you would like to try first. Begin to solve the issue.
We often get caught up on what is the one solution to fix everything. Instead, we can feel calmer and more confident by choosing one solution we believe MAY work, putting it into practice and seeing how it goes.

7. Check in with each other to see if you have resolved the issue. If not, pick another possible solution. Repeat this process as often as needed until you find a solution that works for both of you.

Improve intimacy

Sexual intimacy and sex are two different things. Sexual intimacy is not simply a physical act but a pleasurable experience between two people in Love who express trust, vulnerability and appreciation for one another. It’s about physical and emotional intimacy and improved health for both partners, thanks to the excellent release of hormones due to physical touch. Sex is not only about penetration and orgasms. Physical intimacy has a range of expressions, all focusing first on the mind. When couples embrace, they have increased levels of oxytocin, the hormone responsible for lowering stress and making us feel less stressed. 

Learn About Your Body

Now’s the time to explore if you’re unsure what you like or how to reach orgasm. Take some alone time for yourself to discover what gives you pleasure. Then go back to the first tip and communicate that with your partner. If both partners know what makes them feel good individually, it will give you a higher chance of feeling good when you are together.

Identify Your Turn Ons

What can you or your partner do to get you in the mood? Women tend to enjoy sex more when we are warmed up. So it’s essential to identify what that looks like to you. Is it a back massage, a candle-lit dinner with lots of room for dessert and neck kisses, listening to relaxing music or having a warm bath? Explore various possible turns and see which one works for you.

Live A Healthy Lifestyle

Exercise releases endorphins and hormones and helps you become attuned to your body. Through the aging process, exercise can help increase desire, especially among women.

Become An Adventurous Person

People who are curious and open to new experiences report higher levels of sexual satisfaction. Be open to new ideas, and don’t be afraid to try new things with your partner.

Ultimate Guide to Elevate

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the ability to be present in the present moment. This means not being worried about the past or fearful of the future. When you are with your partner, mindfulness can slow down intimate moments together and allow you to guide the scenario in the way which it’s most pleasurable to you.

Create Physical Intimacy Outside of Sex

Having a high physical intimacy outside of sex often translates to a heightened level of sexual intimacy during sex. Physical intimacy can include kissing, holding hands, cuddling, caressing, spooning, eye contact and rubbing. The more physically connected you are during the day, you will feel closer to one another. 

Schedule it

I know how busy we are, ladies! It never ends with the kids, the partner, the job, the chores, the meetings, and the friends! But if you are currently sexually active in a sexual relationship, it’s essential to understand that it is not a luxury; it’s a necessity. The bond strengthened during sexual intimacy will spill out into all the other aspects of your life; it’s an investment! When you make Love to your partner and are feeling happy and energized, that is how the two of you will show up with one another in other aspects of your relationship and with others, including your children.

Intimacy Questionnaire

Strengthen your relationship by asking your partner the following questions:

Describe our sexual relationship. What do you find most satisfying about it? What don’t you like about it?

How has your sexual relationship changed since we were first together?

How well do you think our sex drives match up? How often would you like to have sex?

How important do you think sex is in our relationship?

Are there things you want to explore sexually that you haven’t told me about?

Cultivate Joy

Joy is a fulfilling and happy occurrence in successful relationships. It means to experience great pleasure or delight with your partner.

Learn to play

Play reduces stress, improves sleep, reduces aggression, fosters creativity and strengthens the bond in relationships. Play can be considered “other-directed”—the kind that genuinely draws others into silliness and good cheer. Another play is “intellectual,” where we enjoy wordplay and creatively solving problems. Play can also be “whimsical,” an amusement with life and a slightly oddball attitude.

Invest in quality time

The most comprehensive study on happiness conducted at Harvard University shows that people who invest in their relationships live longer and happier lives. Beyond social class, genetics, or cholesterol levels, the study found that positive relationships with others were the leading drivers of someone’s ability to combat health issues.

3 Keys to Quality Time

  • Schedule it: Pick days and times during the week that you can enjoy with one another. Start with less and add more as time goes on.
  • Set the Boundaries: Define what will be done when and set the rules for each activity.
  • Give a significant amount: giving all of your attention to your partner gives couples time to relax and open up their heart to each other. Effective communication allows individuals to be themselves, bringing the team closer together. Scheduling quality time ensures you do not miss any opportunity to be together. During this time, don’t waste time worrying about the family, work and kids. Just focus on the moment life has blessed you with. To spend time together, you’ll also need to plan activities to keep the passion between you two alive.

Joy Questionnaire 

Strengthen your relationship by asking your partner the following questions:

1. Describe your perfect morning
2. How do you relax after a long day? A long week?
3. What three activities are you dying to try with me?
4. What habits would you like to introduce into the relationship?
5. What does fun look like for you?

Follow @raileymolinario on Instagram for daily tips on how to create a thriving relationship that truly stands the test of time!

This post originally appeared on raileymolinario.com.

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Expert Love Educator & Relationship Coach Railey Molinario is empowering us to create lives we Love by teaching us relationship intelligence. She’s best known for her signature program, the Power Couple PhD, which teaches couples her scientifically backed formula for creating happy and healthy relationships.

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Show up as Yourself in the Ladyboss Lounge

Show up as Yourself in the Ladyboss Lounge

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It’s been a primary focus in my work, and my life, for the past decade or so, to encourage myself and others to show up as our authentic selves in the world.

There are all sorts of reasons why we don’t – from early conditioning to fears for our safety.

It’s not uncommon for women (and non-binary, femme-presenting folks) to lose touch with who we are. We’re often encouraged to take on other’s people’s ideas of who we should be, what we should value, how we should work, what we should love.

Sometimes I think my whole life so far has been a process of reclaiming who and what I really am and giving myself permission to be that.

As the content manager here at LBI, I’m sharing some of the benefits of joining us Backstage and today, I want to make you sure you know about the Ladyboss Lounge.

ShowUpAsYourselfintheLLadybossLounge

I’m sharing some of the benefits of joining us Backstage and today, I want to make you sure you know about the Ladyboss Lounge.

It’s is a super safe place where you can show up as YOURSELF as you are in the world today.

No apologies for who you are, no dimming your shine.

It’s a place to share and play and grow together.

Post a meme, a funny photo or video of YOU, your passions, questions or concerns. This lounge is cozy and comfy for all the feels and shares of kindness.

In the lounge, we always respect one another and lift one another other up because we are not in competition with each other, we are building something together.

The LBI Lounge is unlike any other space online. We are safe within the digital arms of one another!

Show Up As Yourself

So, when you join us Backstage, settle into the Ladyboss Lounge by sharing a recent win, ask for help, or just share your current mood.

If you have tools and resources that you find helpful in navigating the day to day of life, this is your place to share, and if you don’t see a topic we need to address, you can mention it in our group chat.

We can’t wait to meet greet you on our shared journey in building a more equitable world.

We believe that when we, as women, join forces, we can absolutely change the world!

And we know, a women-led world is a better world for EVERYone!!

Our community is filled with incredible women doing incredible things in this world! And we want to include YOU, ladyboss!  

The LBI Backstage Pass is a super unique space where we highlight women.

We hope you’re take a minute and learn more how we collaborate, elevate and inspire! 

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Lori-Lyn Hurley is a writer and artist who wants her work to nourish the wild parts of you and inspire you to live creatively and be your true self in the world.

Click here to come Backstage, meet Lori-Lyn and the entire community of femme forward leaders. 

How to be a Good Collaborator in Tech Without Even Being a White Guy! 

How to be a Good Collaborator in Tech Without Even Being a White Guy! 

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It’s the end of the year 2023 and I look forward to 2024 being the most collaborative year humans have ever seen. Though as I type this diary entry of a woman in business learning to speak tech, it’s only December 2022 and I’m not particularly thrilled with human collaboration as it stands. If I’m honest, I think we can do a lot better. 

In this last quarter of 2022, I have flexed my collaborative muscles to learn how to do tech better in collaboration studied with the tech bros over at Equifax, the badass women leaders at the Super Majority Education Fund.  I’ve done math with the Center for Creative Economy and perfected my pitch with the leaders of innovation in Chicago at 1871 .  Whilst I will be the first to admit that I still have a lot to learn, my notes from these last 2 years as a tech startup leader show me that the world of tech has a lot to learn, too. 

I will skip the overwhelmingly dramatized state of the world {see dumpster fire train wreck} we’ve been doom scrolling on for the past couple years and I’ll head straight to the SCREAM for HELP that I believe…no wait, I KNOW our species needs in order to continue not just into the new year, but into tomorrow, next week and yeah, 2023+. Arguably, tech isn’t going anywhere so can we at least use it as a vehicle for social change? There has got to be some other industry disruptors out there that feel the same way, right? 

Let’s face it, I wouldn’t be able to soap box as a thought leader on the topic of using tech for good without the use of all sorts of tech; from the laptop I type on, to the project management software my team & I are communicating on all the way to the particles that deliver this cheeky entry to your digital doorstep. Tech is here to stay but why can’t it be better, more collaborative and for that matter actually inclusive ??

How to Be a Good Collaborator in Tech Even if You're Not a White Guy!

Whilst Elon Musk and fellow Muskateers track the bajillionair tech giant’s personal aircrafts in their quest to follow his next dumb act, we women of the world are sitting here going 

WHAT THE ACTUAL F*CK !? 

Who cares where this guy’s jet is, how big his___ is or even what he will do next.

We have bigger catfish to fry! #amIright??

At least his most recent public opinion poll indicates that the general populace (still on Twitter) thinks Musk ought to step down from his leadership role with Twitter. You may have thought the open letter penned in early November of this year from the United Nations  asking Musk to consider human rights from the Twitter pulpit would have prompted such a pass of the torch sooner. But sadly, that’s just not how the ego lead use of big tech works. 

{ See Zuckerberg at the Senate hearing on his social network’s use of data or rather the misuse of it data privacy } 

Spoiler alert: big tech has not been built for anyone but the ‘early pioneers’ of the internet’s open, albeit wild wild west frontier that chiefly looks like Zuckerberg & Musk. They and their forefathers 

( literally) have been stealing the ideas of less known folks like Hedy Lemarr. Hedy was known for her late 1930’s Hollywood star power but also for developing a radio guidance system aka frequency hopping tech aka EARLY INTERNET for allied forces during WW2. Hellllllllo women in tech! Vintage, glam AND tech savvy. I would have totally swiped right on Ms. Hedy and also been sure she had proper credit for her advances both off the screen as well as on. 

Oh the patriarchy is thick, isn’t it! 

Though a collaborative nod must also be paid to Dr. Philip Emeagwali for his early work on integrating much of this same science Ms. Lemarr had worked with the modern day version of what we now know as Google. Dr. Emeagwali is amidst a long line of innovators including inventors Granville T. Woods (1856–1910) who’s patent for was bought by Alexander Graham Bell, most commonly credited as inventor of the telephone but it was really Woods who was key to its development. As well as Marie Van Brittan Brown (1922-1999), a nurse who developed a prototype for closed circuit television security, or as we more commonly call it, CCTV. You can thank Ms. Brown for your Nest and any other tech trinkets that allow you to spy on your own home!

But what if we framed the use of the internet in a fully different way? Like what if it was generative instead of its current use of being absolutely, 100 % extractive? (Hello data mining !!) Aside from the innovator grabs that have historically shown the white guys get to market first with groundbreaking tech, what if we shifted the way tech was built altogether?  This, of course, would mean we need to shift who holds the power of the tech, the check book and well, the mighty (Twitter) microphone!

The way that Musk and most of Silicon Valley have built their success has been on super rapey vibes, ya’ll. There I said it. Modern day tech is in no way collaborative. 

Modern day tech is non consent based. It’s exploitive at best and the super rapey vibes don’t just start in the dm’s. Ladies, I know I don’t need to tell you that. The way this “could be technology collaboration’ fails, is because it has not been built to better the human species; it’s been built to take and take and take. I think …no, I KNOW we can do collaboration better.

We can do tech better in 3 distinct ways: 

We can be more inclusive as we build tech. This is an obvious solution but it has to be said over and over AND over again. In creating advanced solves for humans to do better tomorrow cannot just be band aids for today.  Certainly, we could do better TODAY to ensure a variety of voices & differentiated lived experiences to be part of the build of that technology. But we have to ensure the moves today stick for tomorrow and the next day. Take AI’s freshest tech baby ChatGPT for example. Super cool way to shave minutes, hours maybe even days off of our busy work loads. But I am curious about this technology reflecting the insights of not just the white men who have historically run tech and been chiefly responsible for its procreations.

Sentient robots seem mildly helpful, if even a bit scary but even scarier are they if  they have the emotional band width of any of the dudes I’ve dated in the past.

Sorry not sorry, I’d suggest a swipe left on that. 

We can be so much more collaborative in the process of sourcing talent by building better pipelines to these jobs in the first place. I was recently talking with a fella industry disruptor, a black woman in tech, and she shared with me just how far we are missing the mark of diversity from those entering into the workforce in tech and related sciences. She reports directly from her post in tech that whilst women, particularly women of color are the most educated group in the US at present, she doesn’t feel like she has stable footing in her upper management role. Why, if women are becoming so well trained and educated, is it so hard to get a good, secure seat at the tech table?  And what about that good old fashioned meritocracy?  

After all, she had done her homework, is very skilled, qualified and merited but as layoffs are imminent in this current economy, she is well aware of how stable her small seat at the vacillating table isn’t. And this is likely the case in various other tech hubs as well as businesses regardless of the space they occupy as we work to fill optics but not actually lean into the social change that is needed to keep these posts as influential and crucial to their jobs’ objectives.  

It’s also worth noting that women make up 53 % of the United States population, 47.7% of the global workforce and contribute $1.9 TRILLION dollars into this US economy on average each year but yet we don’t have a strong footing in tech and its advancements for the human species. We also don’t yet have a space designed by, built for and with the safety of women in mind to commune online. 

Certainly there are such fine, niche groups as the Dow Janes who chat all things Money as it pertains to equity for women.    

Verve Romance is a space built specifically for women to connect about sex positivity by way of Romance literature, and She Should Run leads with civic engagement for women through a political lens. But notably, because women have not been taken into account when large platforms like FB, Twitter and the like where created, there are zero, non niched, online forums where women can show up safely to just exist and speak about things which matter to us without the worry we will be attacked, blamed or shamed for doing so. And so sub groups emerged.  As it is so eloquently pointed out in this recent Forbes article, we often see less women participating in larger conversations online, outside of niche communities on key topics in leadership like money, sex and politics  because we are disproportionately targeted in online bullying; even when we just show up to say “Hello, like my shirt!?” Because if we speak to our real voices, we may offer a possibly divisive opinion. And what if we did that? What if we used our voice to inform the way tech progresses without the chance we’d lose our social footing, sanity or sense of safety? 

The third and final way I can see us collaborating in the world of tech better in 2023 and beyond has to do with diligently preparing the youth for success in said dumpster fire, train wreck, recessioning world without them having to purchase a #45 NFT trading card 🙂 

We can share tech resources to young people sooner than later. And I don’t just mean buying them more tokens for Minecraft. Let’s assist the survival of next generations that will undoubtedly be tech centered by creating programs for kids at various socioeconomic levels. Big tech could do well to build stronger pipelines into their hiring pool by offering access to not just computers, tablets and smartphones but ensuring high speed internet access is as accessible as clean water. But, as we know, we are also still working on that!

Whilst this entry might be read as an attempt to save all the tech wales, it’s really a call to action around how we use tech daily, what we are willing to put up with and how we equip ourselves and our future selves for interactions that actually serve us instead of us serving the internet beast. As it’s been built, we are quite literally slaves to an extractive model. 

And, it doesn’t have to be this way.

 

How To Be a Good Collaborator in Tech

It may well be wise for us as a culture, as a species to invest in diversity and thereby true collaboration in all things innovation bc technology is not leaving the planet anytime soon, well unless Musk is driving and I, for one, am not on board for that mission !!  

If you’d like to join our mission through LBI’s digital ecosystem in building the safest and most important place on the internet for women, I personally invite you to #ComeBackstage. We are building new ways of using social media and thereby the internet. 

The LBI Crew and I know there is always a way to do better. As our girl Marie Forleo’s Mom always says, ‘Everything Is Figureoutable’ and we are here to figure out how to build a better tomorrow in tech. 

We encourage you to try doing something different today; particularly if you identify yourself as a thought leader, industry disruptor or business activist who wants to see the world change to a more equitable place. We know that when women have more access to information around money, sex & politics and a safe place to make those exchanges of thought into action, we see ripple effects in our own lives, with our families and in our work places. 

Love,

Rose

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Rose Kaz  is the Fem Founder and she’s done this a time or two. Her photo & video production company has taken her around the world but her new app allows her female clients & even women she hasn’t met yet to lean into each other, learn about our opportunity as business activists to support, grow & shop directly from one another. We are building a new economy, globally. WOW!

And the app we are talking about is that which Rose + the LBI Crew has launched where the ask for women is  to: ‘ take center stage in their lives;  to stand up, speak out & get GLOWING like never before’ Think activism meets B school meets super hip, online resource center! Sprinkle in some new school networking and POW The LBI Backstage Pass is #trending!

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I Give You Permission to Wear What You Want

I Give You Permission to Wear What You Want

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I give you permission to…

WEAR WHAT YOU WANT.

I give my clients permission to wear what they want, when they want, no exceptions.

I Give You Permission to Wear What You Want

The rules you’re following are NOT yours. I promise. You THINK you’re making the rules because they support likes and dislikes you have about your body. Or they support the beliefs you have around what is available to you in stores and what is not. And most importantly, you THINK they support you being liked and accepted out in the world.

But what if YOU MADE THE RULES about what you wore? And what if based them on what you’d wear in the comfort of your own home with no one around to potentially judge you*.

I Give You Permission to Wear What You Want

This article was originally published on Sol Reflection.

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Marisol Colette is a Therapeutic Image Consultant, aka the Fashion Therapist.

She loves helping her clients embrace their self worth and reclaim their outer beauty through aligning their personal style to their soul.

Click here to come Backstage, meet Marisol and the entire community of femme forward leaders. 

Spotlight Replay With Marisol Colette

Spotlight Replay With Marisol Colette

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As a new member of the LBI community (I’m the new blog babe on the block! Hello!) I LOVE that my first spotlight event was this one with Marisol Colette, who encourages people to dress their best by way of processing trauma that may be standing in the way.

You can listen to the replay here.

This week on the blog, Marisol talked about seeing the beauty in ourselves and one another.

You can read that post here. You don’t want to miss the wisdom she’s sharing, or the opportunity to work with her.

Here’s what Marisol says about her Fashion Therapy Package:

“I ensure you know your beauty, your worth and remind you every day to treat yourself the way you’d treat your own best friend – with love, kindness and the ability to see the beauty in them the way I see it in you.”

Does’t that feel like sweet balm for your soul? I know it does to mine.

The Power of Style

I’m a big believer in the power of style. In fact, as an artist, I see my wardrobe choices as an extension of my creative expression. The way I style myself communicates something about me.

It also communicates something to me in the way that it shifts my energy.

As someone with a penchant for vintage and animal prints, I was captivated by this conversation with Marisol, particularly the idea that the way we dress is a way of accessing our personal power. Why yes, I do feel powerful in my hot pink 1970s maxi dress and matching cape, thank you very much!

Marisol said, “We have to get dressed everyday and show up everyday so why not feel good doing it?”

That’s so simple and so true, right?

Spotlight Replay Marisol Colette

Be Yourself and Feel Good

When we feel good about what we’re wearing, and feel in touch with our authentic selves, we’re going to feel better in general.

I recently became aware of the fact that many of the choices I make in my life, I make to please my inner teenager.

I went to a conservative high school with a dress code (think khaki pants and button down shirts) and every cell in my body cried out against that same-ness. The conformity.

As a sixteen year old, I wanted people to know I was my own person and believe me, I made a lot of fashion mistakes in my pursuit of personal expression. Snakeskin print pink corduroy pants come to mind. But you know what? If I still had my satin blazer printed with old-Hollywood movie star faces, I would wear it!

I spent a lot of my youth receiving side-eye and critique of my fashion choices, my black eyeliner and enormous earrings, which my dad often joked looked like fishing tackle.

When I was in my twenties, I dyed my hair hot pink (Listen, I was ahead of my time!) and I can remember the feeling of people turning to stare at me. I remember hearing the criticism that I was just angling for attention or trying to be weird.

The truth was, I just really loved hot pink hair and thought it was beautiful.

When my hair was pink, I felt powerful. I felt like I was expressing something true about myself. (And, um yeah, I was weird. I still am. Weird is good!)

Listening to Marisol and the other attendees at this event, I was reminded of how important it is to me to reach out to my younger self everyday and tell her, I think she’s pretty cool.

And I respect her style.

Join us Backstage

This conversation was so inspirational to me. When was the last time YOU attended an event like this? What inspires you? (We really want to know!)

And we hope you’ll join us backstage because we know you’re going to love it.

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You ARE Beautiful, I Promise

You ARE Beautiful, I Promise

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My favorite sticker comes from a Chicago-based company you-are-beautiful.com whose mission is to “be a positive force and transmit a simple idea: Everyone deserves to feel good with who they are.” I give these stickers as gifts and have stuck it on my laptop right over the computer’s brand logo because it’s a powerful message in three simple words.

And I believe it. ABOUT YOU.

You Are Beautiful, I Promise

You ARE Beautiful, I Promise!

It’s easy for me to see the beauty in ALL my clients. But people often come to me with feelings of low self-esteem or worth. My clients talk about comparing themselves to friends, family, public icons and more.

We’re all sent the message that there’s more we could and should do before we’re deemed good enough to belong or to be loved just as we are. It’s harsh and not only are we sent these unkind messages, sometimes we send them to ourselves.

I want you to know that it is critical that we dismantle these thoughts & ideas from our society and from our souls. We do it for ourselves, our friends and our kids. Our brains know the message that our body is bad isn’t real and yet we freely think that and even double down when challenged by others to feel differently about ourselves.

I want you to imagine your best friend in the whole world. Would you tell them they aren’t pretty enough – that their arms, bellies, chins or thighs are too big? Would you tell them that they don’t measure up to their cousins, sisters or y’all’s other best friends?

you are beautiful i promise

HELL NO. You wouldn’t.

I call my 3-month 1:1 Fashion Therapy package the “Best Girlfriend Program” because for those three months, I treat you like my bestie. 

I ensure you know your beauty, your worth and remind you every day to treat yourself the way you’d treat your own best friend – with love, kindness and the ability to see the beauty in them the way I see it in you.

Try it for one day. Be kind to yourself and when messages that you are not enough come up in your head, resist them. Say, “don’t talk to my friend [insert your name] like that!”

 

This article was originally published on Sol Reflection.

More About Marisol Colette

More About Marisol Colette

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Marisol Colette is a Therapeutic Image Consultant, aka the Fashion Therapist.

She loves helping her clients embrace their self worth and reclaim their outer beauty through aligning their personal style to their soul.

Click here to come Backstage, meet Marisol and the entire community of femme forward leaders. 

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