Healing is a Journey Not a Process

Article written by Lakeisha C. Muhammad

‘My healing heals others around me’

Hi Lady Bosses!  Yes you…You are a boss in everything you do! I want you all to know that as you read my story.  I have come to know that healing is a journey, not a process. The process is what gets you started, but ultimately as you continue to live life you come to realize that healing comes in levels and there are layers to break down.  There are so many things I have had to heal from throughout my life, from past hurt, trauma, dysfunction, abuse, brokenness, and even certain health issues.  

Before I get to the story, how about I share a little about myself? I am a mother of 4 adult children, 1 son and 3 daughters, a wife, author, writer, coach, speaker, cbd consultant, amongst other business and collaborative projects I do. Some would call me “A renaissance woman” 

I never looked at myself as such or even the whole strong woman mentality.  

I believe in the power of truth and transparency when it comes to sharing my story and my truth with people who my story is meant to be shared with. Understanding your story is not for everyone and everyone cannot handle your truth. I believe because the universe makes no mistakes and all that has been spoken into my life and aligned in my purpose for good and to inspire others this is for you.  

Let me go deeper into those areas I listed above, starting with hurt. I have been hurt by family, old friends, past relationships, and other people I trusted and respected. I even hurt me! Yes, you can hurt yourself when you are not able to love yourself and when you allow people to hurt you after they have been doing so for long periods of time. 

You end up on the same side as those who were hurting you. It took me a while to grab hold of the truth that hurt people hurt people, but when I did it helped me to help me, hoping this resonates with someone? I had to get to that place of healing me healing my heart dealing with my own hurt so I would not continue to hurt others. I was able to start loving me and letting go of what others had done to hurt me and pray for their hearts to be healed and for the power of grace to fall on them and they will be better people and stop hurting themselves and other people. 

We gotta break the cycle! Or it will repeat itself in very unhealthy ways.  This is one part of my hurt.

I have had traumas that I did not acknowledge and to know that you can have traumas that you cannot call it for what it is, was a big conqueror for me all these years later in my life. The biggest trauma I dealt with was losing the father of my 3 oldest children as we were a younger couple , it was a long healing process  that I have just arrived at complete release after over 20 plus years. 

During these last two years of 2020-2021 has been another level of healing for me from my past. 

I had to go back to confront this concerning my dad and I tell you my divine brought that to the light of reconnecting with my dad after decades of time. 

I am grateful for not judging it, but with a new found grace and compassion I am leaving room for our relationship to become what it is meant to be between us. I am older now in a different place in my life that I have had to do much self work to get here. I respect my boundaries and I cannot allow anyone to have to go against what serves me and protects me at the same time.

I have made peace with the past and all it was with gratitude for who it allowed me to become and find my passion and purpose. For there is purpose to our pain and we can turn our traumas into purpose and healing as well.  It has allowed me to be a better me for me and for those I show up for day to day within all the roles I walk in.  It has also helped me to serve better being authentically me. The unapologetic me in every area of my life. I no longer live in the restrictions of judgement but love for me and love for my truth. I am courageous to stand alone when I need to do so. 

I continue to support other women in the community space I have created within my empowerment coaching working with women who are pivoting in new purpose, new path and light of their own truth and divinity of women with passion to serve others without being ashamed of their past and who they are. Those women who are on a new spiritual path they have chosen and want to work with someone and be supported by someone who can relate and understands what that experience is like. 

Someone who is authentic and shows up not by title but by being a woman who is still on a journey who has life happening for her too and still overcoming wellness issues with fibroids but taking authority over it and grateful for the doctor’s who support my choices of balancing out the medical options but also utilizing holistic wellness practices as well. I see you, I am you, I hear you, you’re not alone.  

Affirmation: My womb is clear and being filled with clean energy loving pleasure and all it’s wellness.

Lakeisha is a mother, wife, coach, author, speaker, and advocate for the CBD industry. She is a fierce fighter of adverse mindsets and enviroments as a leader. She is ver passionate about empowering women for purpose.
Lakeisha is the founder of CoachingINC. She is a true motivator, continuing to empower and inspire people through coaching and sharing her own personal story in the spaces that it is needed.